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Video Q&A W. Kate Antoniotti of MamaCore Method – Part Two

If you missed it – Watch PART ONE

Back in February, I had the opportunity to sit down with my dear friend Dr. Kate Antoniotti of MamaCore Method. We talked about the idea that traditional mother circles could mean something more, the balance of masculine & feminine energy during the postpartum window, finding autonomy, and the innate desire to connect and be vulnerable. Today, I’m sharing part TWO of our chat where we discuss the importance of dropping back into our bodies to allow for deeper connections and as a tool for reclaiming the forgotten sacred window. 

This conversation is in response to a Mother Circle, hosted in collaboration by Kate and Southwest Michigan’s BLND Health. The overarching theme for our gathering was tuning into our bodies and opening up dialogue around the forgotten sacred window. 

Dr. Kate Antonitti is a community-based chiropractor specializing in the specific needs of a woman body navigating the journey towards motherhood. Her MamaCore Method combines movements rooted in Developmental Kinesiology and Vinyasa Yoga to create a gentle practice that feels innate and intuitive to our transforming bodies.

 

In this video we discuss 5 burning questions…

Q: Tips for reclaiming the essence of a forgotten sacred window (00:40/02:10)

Q: How is breath the most attainable tool in reclaiming the essence of the sacred window? (03:35)

Q: What Unspoken spaces of motherhood deserve more attention and what can we do to shift the dialogue? (07:22)

Q: How does vulnerability, inner wisdom and connection push the paradigm even further? (09:10)

Q: Why is this work and dialogue so important to you? (11:17)

The full annotated chat can be read down below!

 


 

Q: What is the essence behind the sacred window? (00:40) & Do you have any tips for reclaiming the essence of a “lost” sacred window postpartum experience? (02:10)

Cassie Ballard of Our Seva: This idea of claiming our sacred window was a theme to guide our conversation during the mother circle, do you have any tips for how we could reclaime the essence of a forgotten sacred window?

Kate Antoniotti of MamaCore Method: In the book The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann Johnson, Kimberly shares 5 universal traits of the sacred window across cultures – connecting with nature, loving touch, spiritual connection with wise women, nourishing foods & mother the mother. 

To me, those traits still felt pretty big and all-encompassing, so I needed to bring it down a bit and ask myself, “how can I do this in my life today?”. This will guide you to take the next best step that resonates with your inner wisdom. 

The importance of connection to other women who are also on the motherhood journey is SO important!

Cassie: Yes! It allows us to feel as though we are in this together. It feels easier to adapt to big changes when we know there is a support system waiting there to catch you. I love the idea that connection can be as simple as a phone call to someone you trust and admire.

 

Q: In your opinion, how is breath the most attainable tool in reclaiming the essence of the sacred window? (03:35)

Cassie: You don’t have to go anywhere to tap into your steady breath to drop back into your body and away from the airy headspace that brings in confusion and second guessing.

Kate: Breath is such a huge piece of the puzzle. During my own sacred window, I felt so broken down after birth. I knew I needed something to truly build me back up. Everything I was seeing in regards to returning to your body had this underlying concept that felt so clearly opposite of what we need to be doing with our postpartum bodies. They were saying, suck it all to heal our core…disconnecting us even further from our steady breath.

So when we talk about breath, we are talking about allowing deep, expansive breath that fills your whole body. Sometimes the term “expansive” can be triggering during the postpartum period because you already feel very expanded, but in the cultural conversation it’s important to note that taking a big belly breath can actually feel like an act of rebellion…even in your postpartum.

Cassie: Breath is SO immediate! For me, I find myself breathing from the chest up and stuck in my own head. As soon as I consciously take a few deep breaths, I instantly feel reconnected with the wisest parts of myself. It feels like THE solution to every motherhood problem.

Kate: Yes! Breath into all of it.

 

Q: What Unspoken spaces of motherhood deserve more attention and what can we do to shift the dialogue? (07:22)

Cassie: With this project, Our Seva, we are dedicated to talking about the unspoken spaces, the spaces like the forgotten sacred window. Do you have an unspoken space that you feel deserves more attention.

Kate: Just off the top of my head…We are so innately wired for connection, but our connections are often distorted by cultural pressures like comparison and competition. I think we need to better acknowledge when we are doing that within ourselves and decide how much externally we are going to allow to influence us.

Cassie: Totally agree.

 

Q: How does vulnerability, inner wisdom and connection push the paradigm even further? (09:10)

Cassie: I’ve realized that mothers tend to banter as a way of connection, but we are stuck on the surface level talking about simple annoyances. When we drop into our breath, move our bodies and build personal connections, we are able to stripe away the filter we put on our experiences. It feels like an authentic way to push the dialogue without a layer of judgement and criticism.

Kate: Yes. Dropping back into our body and leaving the mindless chatter is the best way to feel grounded in the present and deeper allowance for heart-to-heart connections. Without it…we’re swirling.

 

Q: Why is this work and dialogue so important to you? (11:17)

Cassie: We frequently talk about how we feel called to have these conversations. We both have daughters that drive us to have these transparent conversations so the next generation of women can more freely tap into their inner wisdom and build supportive communities.

Thank you Kate for joining me!

 


 

Join the Our Seva Motherhood Circle

Join Kate and I in the Private Facebook Group where we frequently explore what it means to advocate for the needs of the transforming body. Together, we are shifting the paradigm around what it means to build connection, share through vulnerability, find a new balance, and inspire great change within our motherhood communities. If you like where this dialogue is headed, follow along for weekly themed discussions around identity, maternal mental health, cultural expectations and our sacred service to motherhood.

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Video Q&A W. Kate Antoniotti of MamaCore Method – Part One

I’m so excited to share with you part ONE of my tea chats with Dr. Kate Antoniotti of MamaCore Method. She’s my personal (and my kiddo’s) go-to chiropractor who has created a custom movement method to support the unique needs of the postpartum experience. With MamaCore Method, Kate combines movements rooted in Developmental Kinesiology and Vinyasa Yoga to create a gentle practice that feels innate and intuitive to our transforming bodies. She’s also seeing patients on a regular basis, helping women feel the best they can feel through pregnancy, birth preparation, postpartum and beyond.

After a recent Mother Circle, hosted in collaboration by Kate and Southwest Michigan’s BLND Health, we sat down with our favorite tea to dive into some of the common themes brought up during the gathering. This modern mother circle was an ingenious combination of Kate’s movement method and progressice conversations around how we can reclaim the forgotten sacred window.

 

In this video we discuss 5 burning questions…

Q: What was the inspiration behind this new format of the Mother Circle? (00:57)

Q: How can we find a new balance of masculine & feminine energy during postpartum? (03:03)

Q: What’s the trick to dropping back into our bodies and finding autonomy? (05:02)

Q: Can we discover common ground from the innate desire to build connection? (06:54)

Q: Is there depth without vulnerability… especially for the modern mother? (11:48)

The full annotated chat can be read down below!

 


 

Q: What was the inspiration behind this new format of the Mother Circle? (00:57)

Cassie Ballard of Our Seva: Kate and I had the opportunity to meet and do one of these movement practices with a group of 25 other ladies, and it revolutionized my ideas around what a modern motherhood circle could be. It was this combination of gentle movement paired with really thoughtful motherhood chat. Curious…what was the inspiration behind this new time of getting together, because it’s different!

Kate Antoniotti of MamaCore Method: It is different, but it’s evolved a lot. MamaCore was created as just a movement practice. It was created by blending my love for yoga and the appreciation for the anatomy and early postpartum changes to the body. Also, the really poor guidance that’s available to women, especially those first two years after having a baby. Having gone through that, it pushed me into discovery mode, seeking a new safe solution that could heal and nurture my body. I think a lot of the exercises and mindsets out there can actually do a lot of harm, breaking the body down in a time that our bodies need to be built back up. It’s also a very masculine approach and during the early stages of motherhood, there is such a deep desire to nurture the feminine. I at least have the awareness that my body needed nourishment during those early years, and nourishment feels very feminine. MamaCore is that. It’s a beautiful blend of developmental kinesiology and gentle yoga practice.

 

Q: How can we find a new balance of masculine & feminine energy during postpartum? (03:03)

Cassie: It’s a really fun idea to know that the movement isn’t just moving around on the mat, but centered on the desire to build a strong pelvic floor and the muscles to recover from a birth event. Even the ladies that were there and who were pregnant, we were all able to connect within the feminine energy of this movement practice. We were connecting on the basis that we all knew our bodies really needed this experience. The movements feel incredibly innate. It’s comfortable and supportive.

 

Q: What’s the trick to dropping back into our bodies and finding autonomy? (05:02)

Cassie: The practice allows us to drop back into our bodies. As mothers we find ourselves floating up in the headspace and there is immense beauty in dropping back in.

Kate: There is something to add here. In addition to feeling airy during the postpartum period, we are now caring for another being outside of ourselves. There is this feeling of “extra” separation that happens.

Cassie: Agree. Often times you feel like your body isn’t even yours in those moments. That seems to be one common thread in my motherhood journey so far. I am always doing something for something else. The evening of connection allowed me to separate, find autonomy for a few hours and build connection knowing all of us women there were experiencing this same idea of reconnection to self.

 

Q: Can we discover common ground from the innate desire to build connection? (06:54)

Kate: Yes. There is a beautiful alchemy to it. We all came from very different days, very different motherhood journeys, but we were united by the movement practice and sincere, honest dialogue.

Cassie: You mentioned that no matter what background and culture we come from, we all have this built in, primal desire to connect. Many of us do not come from a culture that really supports the needs of the postpartum tradition. You mentioned that you too didn’t come from a super supportive culture, but you did come from a background that really supported the Matriarch in the family. That sentiment stuck with me, because I feel this message resonates with most women, even when our culture doesn’t specifically support the newborn mother. It’s a perfect way for all of us to connect on the common ground of just honoring where we are in the process.

Kate: We all have the same biology of our lineage and many of those lineages did have ways of “mothering” the mother. Unfortunately, we’ve been picked up out of that and placed in a modern culture that doesn’t have practices in place. We are all siloed away during this period of time, so we need to have the awareness to find ways to mother ourselves that will hopefully have a ripple effect for our daughters and communities going forward.  I recently read something that said, “we were eggs inside our mother’s womb, when she too was inside her mother” and it was one of those moments that made me feel so tied to this lineage of mothers. That’s why it make since to nurture myself now to have impacts of future generations.

Cassie: There is something really beautiful about mothering yourself from not only a physical standpoint, but from the lens of maternal mental health as well. There is beauty in the sharing, and the “me too” that makes your overall experience that makes everything feel validated and more powerful.

Kate: There was never another moment in my life where that outside validation and “me too” was as powerful as it was during the postpartum period. I needed to know she was also experiencing it to know I wasn’t alone. There is so much loneliness during the postpartum period. If we only live on surface level connection, you just feel alone.

 

Q: Is there depth without vulnerability… especially for the modern mother? (11:48)

Cassie: I completely agree. When I was building the idea of launching the Our Seva motherhood community, I went searching high and low for people having really insightful, progressive and deep conversations. Unfortunately, I found a lot of people shying away from talking about the harder aspects of motherhood. We come from a culture that just doesn’t talk about the hard stuff. It’s something that is crippling, because we are left searching for answers, security, validation to prove that something isn’t wrong. In reality, most answers can be found within. We need to shed the layer of transparency, share through vulnerability and show up so that other women and mothers are inspired to do the same with their stories.

Kate: Yes! And then in their “me too”, a piece of their experience resonates with you, helping you process aspects of your journey. That’s why women need to be brought together. There is also something about the physical circle that really keeps the dialogue and vulnerability moving freely….

Stay tuned for part TWO!

 


 

Join the Our Seva Motherhood Circle

Join Kate and I in the Private Facebook Group where we frequently explore what it means to advocate for the needs of the transforming body. Together, we are shifting the paradigm around what it means to build connection, share through vulnerability, find a new balance, and inspire great change within our motherhood communities. If you like where this dialogue is headed, follow along for weekly themed discussions around identity, maternal mental health, cultural expectations and our sacred service to motherhood.

Join the Private Facebook Group →

 

If you don’t already, follow Kate over on Instagram → @mamacoremethod
and Cassie over on Instagram → @our.seva